I adore beaches.
I love green.
I youtube till dawn,
I shop till dusk.
That's cause..
I'm a girl. And a lazy one too.
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| Graduation |
| Holiday |
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| Limousine Ride |
| To be Thin |
Friday, January 18, 2013
Someone shared this article with me and i thought i share a part of it with you.
Everybody Hurts Sometimes
So pick yourself up, dust yourself off, and start all over again 1. Don’t look on the bright side:
“Managing any negative emotion takes at least 48 hours,” says Deborah
Grayson Riegel, a behavior and communication expert and author of Oy Vey! Isn’t a Strategy.
During that time, you should communicate only with those who won’t try
to prematurely cheer you up. “Avoid the ‘hurry up and get over it’
people,” she says. “I want a friend who says, ‘Oh my god, that sucks!
That is the worst!’”
2. Accept that you’re not perfect:
“In our culture, people treat failure as the exception rather than an
ongoing process,” says Karen Steinberg, a therapist and executive coach
based in New York. What can you learn from failing at work? “Maybe you
were mismatched with a particular client,” says Steinberg. “Or you don’t
have the skill set you thought you did. Maybe this was a sign that it’s
time to get out.”
3. Watch out for paranoia:
“Worrying about being unliked actually makes you more unlikable,” says
Karl Aquino, a professor at the University of British Columbia Sauder
School of Business. Remember: “Other people really aren’t thinking about
you,” he says. “They’re preoccupied with their own lives and careers.”
4. Try not to be a jerk:
Resist the instinct to talk to whoever rejected you. “Are you honestly
trying to repair the relationship,” asks Riegel, “or are you letting off
some emotional steam? If your objective is ‘They made me feel like
s--- so I’m going to make them feel like it,’ that’s a good sign you
shouldn’t have that conversation.”
quote from "http://www.businessweek.com/articles/2013-01-07/rejection-therapy-a-hundred-days-of-no#p1"
It's good for us to constantly remind ourselves of these fact so that when we fall or fail, we do not fall into this pit hole of darkness and not able to pick ourselves up and walk on. After all, who hasn't fallen and fail before? It never matters how we fall/fail, what matters is how we pick ourselves up.
A lot of us made mistakes in the past, even in the present, we continue to make mistakes. But this is the very fact that makes us humans. It doesn't mean that if a mistake is made, you should just stop and stand still. Instead, reflect on your mistakes, make amends, changes and move on with your life. Because if you don't, others will move on and leave you behind. It's undeniable that mistakes leaves scars in our lives, but they are there to remind us of a life we had and not of the pain of the past. Trust me, time will heal all wounds and rid you of all pain eventually. It always does.
