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Sunday, November 24, 2013 The 20 Things You Need To Let Go To Be HappybyEveryone has one common goal in life: to achieve true happiness. The biggest factor holding us back from achieving our dreams is, simply and sadly, our own selves. We put limitations on ourselves everyday, whether intentionally or unintentionally. There are so many ways we can alleviate these restraints.Remember, life can either be something you embrace or something you hide from. Stop making things complicated and just live your life. It would be so much simpler and more enjoyable if we learned to just release certain limitations. Let’s take a look at the things you need to let go of in order to become a happier person. 1. The Approval Of OthersWho gives a sh*t what other people think? If you are happy with the decisions you have made, then whose business is that but your own? Think of how much you could achieve if you stopped letting other people’s opinions dictate the way you live your life. Do you, and engage in whatever actions you think might better your life.2. Anger/ResentmentAnger will eat at you from the inside. Learn how to make peace with those who have wronged you. This isn’t about letting the other person off the hook; it’s about alleviating the pain that resonates within you. Keep in mind that he who angers you, controls you.“Life becomes easier when you learn to accept an apology you never got.” 3. Negative Body ImageThere is only one person’s opinion you should be concerned with when it comes to your body and that is you. No one person determines what the “correct” body type is. If you are comfortable in your own skin, and you are healthy, then that should be the only thing that matters. Do not let others tell you that you’re not beautiful because if you believe you are, then you are.4. Idea Of A Perfect PartnerThere is no such thing as a perfect partner, so throw your checklist out the window. In life, what prevents us from moving forward is looking at the perfect image of a partner we concoct in our minds. Find the right person for you: one that you can love with all your heart, one you feel comfortable with and one that accepts you for the person you are. The sooner you realize there isn’t one perfect person out there for you, the better off you will be.“He’s not perfect. You aren’t either, and the two of you will never be perfect. But if he can make you laugh at least once, causes you to think twice, and if he admits to being human and making mistakes, hold onto him and give him the most you can. He isn’t going to quote poetry, he’s not thinking about you every moment, but he will give you a part of him that he knows you could break. Don’t hurt him, don’t change him, and don’t expect for more than he can give. Don’t analyze. Smile when he makes you happy, yell when he makes you mad, and miss him when he’s not there. Love hard when there is love to be had. Because perfect guys don’t exist, but there’s always one guy that is perfect for you.” – Bob Marley 5. Perfect LifeJust like there is no perfect partner, there is also not a perfect life. Life is what you put into it, so if you are not willing to work hard and put forth effort, you will most likely end up miserable. The choices you make will directly reflect the life you lead. It is up to you to create the best possible world for yourself.6. You’re Going To Be RichToo many people live their lives with the thought that they will be millionaires. While this can be a realistic goal for some, it is not something that can be achieved without hard work and dedication. Stop letting money be your sole motivator; find a career you are passionate about and immerse yourself in it completely.7. The Idea That Good Fortune Will Arrive At Your DoorstepYou need to go out into the world and actively look for fulfillment. You cannot take a backseat in life and expect things to happen for you. Appreciate the life you live, and be grateful for what you have. Value each minute of every day. Live like there’s no tomorrow, and make the most out of any situation.8. ExcusesMake no time for excuses. You want to work out, but you don’t have the time? Wake up early and get your gym on. Excuses are only rationalizations that make you feel better about yourself for not doing something you want/need to be doing. You desire results? Stop bitching, and start doing. 9. Thoughts Of Your ExThis person is your ex for a reason. If you are going to think of him or her at all, try and think only about the lessons the experience taught you. Do not linger on any old feelings, as this will only prevent you from being happy with someone else in the future.10. StubbornnessI know it’s hard to admit, but sometimes you are just wrong. Other people have just as much capability as you do in providing the correct answer, so stop being stubborn and just embrace it. The less stubborn you act, the more open you are to learning new things. Think of all you could be exposed to if you stopped believing in opinions other than your own.11. ProcrastinationStop thinking you will finally get to whatever task is at hand tomorrow. Live in the present, and get your sh*t done when it needs to be done. Maximize your time to the best of your ability. Complete each task you need to as soon as you can. This allows you to feel free from worry and stress by getting things out of the way as soon as possible. You also allow yourself more free time to enjoy the things you love.12. Your BaggageWe have all been hurt one time or another by someone we loved, or we thought we loved. Carrying negative feelings into future relationships will only prove to be disastrous. No two people are the same, so it’s unfair to hold a future partner to a standard set by an ex. Try to begin each new relationship with a clean slate.13. NegativityWhat you put out into the universe will come back to you, so change the way you think, immediately. Stop thinking of life as a glass half empty, but rather, half full. You have so much to be grateful for, if only you took a moment to appreciate it. Anything is possible in the mind of a positive thinker.14. Judgmental ThoughtsWhy do people feel the need to constantly worry about what is going on in other people’s lives? If we spent as much time worrying about our own behaviors as we do worrying about those of others, our lives would be a whole lot more meaningful. You have no idea what is going on in another person’s life, so who are you to pass judgment on the way they act?15. JealousyHappiness is not having what you want; it’s wanting what you have. Stop envying others and learn to appreciate what you have. Everyone’s life is unique; you have certain things to offer that others cannot. When we act in a jealous manner, all we do is bring negative feelings into our lives. There is absolutely nothing to gain from behaving this way.16. InsecurityHappy people tend to have extremely high levels of self-esteem. They accept who they are and work it everyday of their lives. They radiate confidence, flaunt their pride and give off positive vibes. There is no reason to be insecure in life. If there are things you are self-conscious about, go out into the world and seek to change them. Only you have the ability to create the best version of yourself.17. Depending On Others For HappinessAt the end of the day, the only person you can count on 100 percent of the time is yourself. Do not make the unfortunate mistake many people do and put your happiness in the hands of others. A relationship is not going to fulfill the void if you can’t even make yourself happy. You need to achieve happiness on your own before you can find someone else to share it with. This creates a detrimental dependency that will prevent you from becoming self-sufficient.18. The PastStop living in the past! There is virtually nothing you can gain if you wallow in mistakes you have previously made. Take past mistakes as lessons learned, and move forward. You cannot wholeheartedly move on to a better future if you are constantly looking behind you. Things happened, and that’s that. Take them with a grain of salt and move on.19. The Need For ControlSometimes you just need to let life happen the way it is meant to. You cannot spend your life stressing about things that are outside of your control. Try to relax, and let things play out naturally. Embrace the unknown, as this is where you will be surprised the most. Let yourself be whisked into unforeseen endeavors, and relish in the excitement they bring.20. ExpectationsManaging your expectations is the key to happiness. If you let go of expectations, you will never be disappointed. Often, we tend to believe that the way we treat others will be the way we are treated in return. Unfortunately, this does not always happen. Do not expect a certain result from any given situations. Go into an experience with an open mind. This will allow you to fully immerse yourself, without the pressure of living up to preconceived notions.Wednesday, April 10, 2013 Hello my dear blog, how have you been? It's been long and I have missed you. Many a times, I told myself I have to blog and pen down my thoughts and feelings during the day, but I always end up procrastinating. Sadly, this is how my life is at the moment. I'm stuck in a vicious cycle of procrastination, and as much as I am aware of it, I don't seem to be doing anything about it. I suck for that matter. But I can continue to beat myself up for it, or I can attempt to do something about my life finally. So I am finally here blogging about it. 7 months passed since my birthday, and I don't know if I would feel the same about my birthday anymore. It would just remind me of sad stuff that happened around the period. During this 7 months, I've lost and gain a lot. I guess you could say I've became more cold-hearted, or maybe I'm just stronger now. I realised that you shouldn't depend on anyone, not too much anyway. Usually they are the one that come and bite you in the ass, and it would hurt like hell. And at the end of the day, if your friend doesn't even respect you enough to tell you things to your face and have to convey the message through email (in a superior way nonetheless), you know that there is no point in the friendship anymore. It's a joke how you claimed that I do not know how to communicate when you are the one writing the email instead of saying it to my face. Guess I'm not even worth that amount of respect from you. Although things are more peaceful now and I can see much more clearly now, but it still saddens me that this even happened. I look forward to the day where I won't even think about this incident anymore. I have learnt a few lessons from this incident. Firstly, don't take people for granted. I've been on the receiving end before, and it feels like I'm not being appreciated. It ain't a nice feeling. Secondly, don't push people too far even if they are your closest friends. People always think "I can do that to her/him cos we're very close, so she/he won't be angry." But seriously, nobody owes it to you to not feel angry. You never know when the other party would have enough of your nonsense and just stop caring. After that, you would just be at the losing end, cause you have lost something great. And no point in cherishing it only after you have lost it. So, everyone should tell their close friends and family how much they mean to you right now. If you think its embarrassing, think again. Just a simple phrase "thank you for being my friend. :)" is enough to make your friend's day and to let them know you appreciate them. It's all for the better good! To all my dear friends who have been around for me especially during these 7 months, I can never thank you enough :) I especially rmb a tumbler of baileys, many hours of my rambling and all the little things that my friends do to cheer me up :) That's a load off my chest! I've been wanting to blog about that for a while and hopefully now, I would feel better :) Friday, January 18, 2013 Someone shared this article with me and i thought i share a part of it with you.
quote from "http://www.businessweek.com/articles/2013-01-07/rejection-therapy-a-hundred-days-of-no#p1" It's good for us to constantly remind ourselves of these fact so that when we fall or fail, we do not fall into this pit hole of darkness and not able to pick ourselves up and walk on. After all, who hasn't fallen and fail before? It never matters how we fall/fail, what matters is how we pick ourselves up. A lot of us made mistakes in the past, even in the present, we continue to make mistakes. But this is the very fact that makes us humans. It doesn't mean that if a mistake is made, you should just stop and stand still. Instead, reflect on your mistakes, make amends, changes and move on with your life. Because if you don't, others will move on and leave you behind. It's undeniable that mistakes leaves scars in our lives, but they are there to remind us of a life we had and not of the pain of the past. Trust me, time will heal all wounds and rid you of all pain eventually. It always does. Saturday, December 29, 2012 I've always like the feeling at the end of the year. Firstly, it's the Christmas season (my fave holiday). Secondly, you get to reflect back on the year and see what you have accomplished during the year. Thirdly, if your year wasn't what you wanted, or you want a bigger change or you simply want a fresh start, the new year is just a few days away. With each new year, we will always make new year's resolution although many of us don't actually follow it *guilty*. Nevertheless, we should look forward to what the new year would bring us - new beginnings and new challenges. Looking back at the year 2012, how many of us really did something that we are proud of or that you can justify that an event happened can represents your life in 2012? or are you part of the group that is just drifting day to day living a life, but not really living your life? Sadly, I belonged to the latter group, for majority of 2012 anyways. I had a job like most of the working ppl in the society. I wake up at 7 to get ready for work. I go to work and slog one whole day and by the time I get to go home, I'm so tired, I just eat my dinner, bath and sleep. Sometimes, I dont even get to see my parents for days due to my work nature. During the weekends, one day would be for maintaining my social life (mainly movie or eat). Then at least half a day is for pure nua-ing. And that's how every week went. HOW BORING IS THAT?! I'm sure there are ppl who feel the same way as me. The saddest thing is that you want to make a change to the boring life, but you have no time to do it. Some of you may say it's an excuse cos well, i did leave half a day to nua. But seriously, when you're tired from work, you would just wanna have some rest instead of partying around (old already ya know!) In addition to this boring life of mine, I didn't like my job at all. It just doesn't really fit my personality and I think it kinda made me very cynical. Like, I would need to see proof for everything and I must doubt things that people say (i.e to see if they are hiding things). Sighs.. 活到这么辛苦for what? So.. I finally took control of my life and QUIT! :D Say until so 爽！But what comes after is the scary part! UNEMPLOYMENT! 0_0! okay, I'm not exactly unemployed, but my current job has the nature of a freelance job (i.e, i meet clients when they are free, and the rest of my time, i can do anything i want!). I'm not used to all these free time on hand at the moment. It just feels like my 3 weeks leave that I always take. But, the difference is that I'm not paid during this "leave" and I shouldn't be nua-ing all my time away and actually go do the things I want to do! Now that I have all these control over my time and life, i must start being discipline so as to make full use of my time to do the interesting stuff and to carve out the path of my life. but.. let me just nua the remaining 3 days of 2012 first! teehee :) So my 2012 in summary is the year that I finally took control over my life and started steering it in the direction that I want it to go! :D what's yours? Now, enough talking for now. It's picture time! :) Thanks to the following friends who made my december/x'mas awesome :) 
My awesome 26th Council @ Playnation :)
The crazy trios @ MBS
EY girls since intern days @ M Hotel :) Kudos to the photographer!
Neighbourly sisters @ ikea :) <3 br="br">
Six sisters! :) 鬼脸 @ Star Vista！
it's been awhile since the six of us met, but it still feel like good old times! :)
Of course it doesnt mean my other outings don't mean anything. It's just that.. we didn't take picture! WAHAHAH! I'm feeling the itch to upgrade my canon camera again! but it's at least 500 bucks! :( I shall think somemore!
MERRY CHRISTMAS EVERYONE! TAKE SOME TIME TO THINK OF NEW YEAR RESOLUTION! :D
Cheers!
Wednesday, October 17, 2012 Something funny just happened! Scenario: My team was minding our own business and doing our work in our meeting room. Then, this really big boss walks past our room and looks into our room. (One side of our room is made of glass. Think animal exhibits). Everyone looks up from their laptops and glance at the big boss. I made eye contact with him and gave a weak smile just as my senior said "LOOK DOWN! DONT HAVE EYE CONTACT WITH HIM! JUST LOOK DOWN!" Well.. of course I did what I was told, but that didn't stop me from giggling all the way! Should we have really ignored the boss? But why should we have done that? A nice way to end the official working day! :) This is the story of a girl, Damn you cockroaches! how dare you appear in my toilet! But i found out something. I think cockroaches hate water or something like that! so as long as i have my shower, it wouldnt come close to me! and let's just hope it stays that way! :D i FINALLY went to exercise! i ran/walked 2.4km and skipped 300 times! sounds easy peasy to some of you right? but give me a break! it's been a LONNNGG while since i've done anything to raise my heartbeat. but my aim is to jump 1000 times consecutively by the end of the month! :) I love the combination of sun and rivers/sea for some reason. They give me a very calm feeling, and they let me forget about my troubles. it's like the sun has burned the troubles away or it has been washed away by the river/sea! :) thank god for working near Singapore River and having ppl to go sit in the sun with me! :) its like a cleanse for the mind! yay to healthy minds :) by the way, did u know there's $5.90 offers for subway now? they offer two subs each week and you can have it as a meal (1 drink and 2 cookies) for just $5.90! awesome much? this week's (17 Oct to 23rd Oct) offer is for subway club and chicken & bacon ranch meal :) Time to go for my subway lunch by the river! ciao~  Sunday, April 22, 2012 An article that I came across whiich I found very truee. STAGE 1 (1-3 Months): The Honeymoon Stage Everything seems perfect, both are happy and feeling “in love.” You share moments, dates and just having fun with each other, sharing laughs and giggles. It’s like nothing could stop you. Your feelings are infinite, and for once you’re thinking, “This may work out….” and it seems like nothing could go wrong. You spend hours getting ready before going out with this person. *If your relationship ended in this stage — Most likely, both rushed into the relationship too quickly. Being together was all too sudden and just for the moment. When one starts noticing the flaws, one gets a choice to move foward, or back away. Being friends has a high percentage of working out, but nothing to stress over. Both may just need the time to get to know one another better. -- STAGE 2 (4-6 months): The Bumpy Road Things are going okay now. The relationship is calm and settled; both are still mostly happy. Had a couple arguments and disagreements here and there, nothing huge. Start to notice some of each other’s flaws and aspects of their personalities not seen before, but still truly care for one another. *If your relationship ended in this stage — You truly cared about this person. You had the energy to fight for this person, yet you feel as if something was lacking, something was missing. It doesn’t feel right, one isn’t happy. When one isn’t happy, one tends to walk away to seek their new happiness. Being friends is still a possibility. -- STAGE 3 (7-12 months): The Rocky Mountain You start to realize who your partner really is. A few more arguments may occur. Problems with jealously, overprotectiveness may arise. Other people may come in the picture. The “in love” moments start to decrease, but you feel as if you’ve “fallen in love.” You tend to have this energy inside to strive and “make it work,” and you feel more comfortable being around this person, feeling more of yourself. *If your relationship ends in this stage — You feel as if you’re hurt, depending on the circumstances. You were so sure that that person was “The One.” You were so SURE that he/she was different. But like a cancer, a problem that may have happened, a small issue, grew into something larger that took over what was made between two people. You still miss this person from time to time. You still remember the memories. Being friends may be difficult right away, but over time, you slowly mature up, and learn the reality of it. -- STAGE 4 (1 year or more): The Long Road 1, 2, 3, 4, 5 years, huh? This person truly means something to you. You are “in love” with this person. He/she made a difference in your life. No one else knows you more than this person. You guys have been through the good, the bad, and the ugly, and still strive to make it last. *If your relationship ends in this stage — You feel heartbroken; it’s tough. You can’t sleep, can’t eat, you miss him/her, you try to move on, you try meeting new people, but seems like nothing works. For whatever reason the split occured, it must’ve been something important, or something must have been so wrong that it took over. Being “just friends” is impossible, because if you tried to be friends, you wouldn’t be able to think of them in any other way besides the one you once “loved.” Saturday, November 12, 2011 I've gotta say, i'm very addicted to gossip girls. Especially to chuck & blair's love. so intense, so loving, so deep, so true. I just thank god i'm not surrounded by tight ass bitches that backstabs everyone, (at least not at the moment). I could watch the apology forever. I'm here to apologise for everything else. I'm sorry for losing my temper the night you told me louis proposed to you I'm sorry for not waiting longer at the empire state building I'm sorry for treating you like property I'm sorry I dint tell you I loved you when I knew I did and most of all, I'm sorry I gave up on us when you never did.. like i said, intense love. :) back to the real life. How often do you pay for your own stupidity? It comes in forms of fines, fees, etcetc. I guess it's common just that we dont usually think of it as "paying for our stupidity". just a thought. today's my treat to my dad! i'm gonna get him the black pepper crab and chilli crab he so much crave for. i should take photos and post it up later! where would you recommend for the best chilli and black pepper crab? Just for laughs~ "How can i be so STUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUU~" - classic sheldon. I finally took the first step to amend a mistake i regretted in the past. And i'm really glad i did. We should never live in regrets and complains about our lives. we should always try the change what we're unhappy with! it takes courage to take the first step, but if you never try, you will never know the outcome too. :) 3 years of regret ends now. never dismiss someone from the first look. you never know what you've missed. xoxo, ashleyy. :] |
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